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“I can say only what I think, which all too often gets all mixed up with what I feel.” — Dorothy Parker, Address (extract), Esquire Magazine Symposium, 1958

Filed under “Things you don’t think will fit in a Mini Cooper (and we’re not talking about the Clubman!).”

The truth is, I’m writing this bio because I sat down after lunch to get back to a novel-in-episodes I’m working on for posting on Kindle Vella, and I got procrastistracted when I came here for no good reason and saw someone else’s “About.”

I should probably have an ‘About’…

The Big Three

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I like introductions as much as the next person, but not really, so I’ll just start with the misconceptions.

1. We are antinatalists

Some antinatalists are childfree.

Some childfree people are antinatalists.

But not all antinatalists are childfree, and not all childfree people are antinatalists. …

Funny How It Permeates

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The expectation that I’d turn into a mother started when I was 20 years old and married to my first husband.

It ended nine years later when my second husband and I divorced.

The first husband and I hadn’t discussed things like children before getting married, but the second husband…

Even parents say so.

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I once saw a childfree segment on the Today Show that, in its way, suggested women who don’t want children will still find ways to have children in their lives, as if part of being fulfilled as a woman will always involve children. …

But still, I’m beautiful, right?

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In an episode of Burn Notice, which I watch while I exercise, a man hires Mike (or, in our house, Burn Notice) to find the guy who beat up his sister and put her in the hospital.

The guy and Burn Notice stand at the…

No more “women and children,” please.

A recent UN headline reads, “Afghanistan: Record number of women and children killed or wounded.”

Here are the details:

The UN Assistance Mission in Afghanistan (UNAMA) reported in its Afghanistan Protection of Civilians in Armed Conflict midyear update, that there were 1,659 civilians killed and 3,254 wounded; a 47 per…

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…for example…

…want all clothes to come out clean
…like a quick-to-cook cuisine
…want a good, strong paper towel
…need a fix for odors foul
…go to college late in life
…be a loved and loving wife
…want some pants to fit my belly
…want preservative-free jelly
…desire no pesticides on fruit
…be horrified by threat of nukes
…understand why…

Why deny them?

There’s a sort of trend, the last few years, of trying to be the one who has it harder than the next person.

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The childfree community isn’t exempt from this trend.

But that we engage in it isn’t entirely our fault; parents will often question the legitimacy of a childless/childfree…

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People have started holding regular pro-life protests on the high-traffic corner at the intersection of Main Street and Center Avenue. Supporters and opponents wave and shout at rush-hour commuters, who pretend to be distracted by something going on inside their cars.

A recent protest focused on the children. A sign…

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There’s been list after list (after list) compiled about the childfree. What not to tell us, things we hate, untruths about us, silly things people say to us, and truths about us.

All great lists, but there’s room for one more.

6 things the childfree might not tell you

We may not tell you these things because they…

Kristen Tsetsi

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