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How pronatalism traps men
They’ll “come to terms with it after a while”
Years ago, I wrote a childfree blog under the name Sylvia D. Lucas, and as I was looking just now at an old post of “hers” I came across a string of comments underneath that old post that illustrate how males are impacted by pronatalism.
It’s probably true that females get most of the direct hits, but those hits sure roll down…
The old blog post was a response to a man named Bart who’d commented on an earlier thing I’d written for The Good Men Project. Bart’s comment, in part:
Take this warning from me: never, I repeat NEVER agree to having a baby if you don’t want it, whatever pressure might come from whomever asshole out there, don’t listen to them. Just listen to yourself and if you want to stay free and careless and did I mention FREE by all means say NO! Here’s another thought: if men would really have a say in having babies or not I predict that world population would be 50% smaller.
Responses in the comments under the old post/response to Bart I found, a snip of which is No one strapped you down and forced you to impregnate the baby’s mother. Blaming your partner is a feeble attempt to deny your responsibility and, in this case, your own weakness, naturally included variations of “if you don’t want kids, get a…
