I understand what you're saying. Yes, it's become a thing to embrace "selfish" as a childfree person, as if the word is just a label, the way "bitch" was for women who refused to be doormats. Unfortunately, it's still a broader word, one not reserved for a very specific trait (selfish is simply selfish, childfree or not), and I think embracing it makes things continue to be hard for those who experience actual pressure (from family, religion, culture, etc.) to have kids. (And I mean the kind of pressure that is more than anything I've experienced, the kind that's really hard to get out from under.) "You see? It's selfish to not give your parents grandparents/follow your culture's traditions. How could you want to be a horrible person?" It's probably a lot easier to claim selfish as if it means the same as acting in one's self interest if the demands on the uterus are less severe. (?) I don't know. I just have this feeling the choice to not have kids hasn't quite made it, yet, to the point where those with fewer reproductive freedoms (literal or assumed) don't still need help combating the stigma.