There also learned helplessness. If someone is always doing the things, the other person gets used to those things being done. I think I’m guilty of that. My husband is one of those people who likes to figure out how things work, fix things, and TRY to fix things, whereas I’m always afraid that if I try, I’ll mess it up (it’s a me thing). I have to remind myself to ask myself, now and then, “What would you do if he weren’t here? Figure it out, for chrissake.”